...but you might not want to read it if you're easily offended by the use of the f-word. Just giving you fair warning. This book is fabulous, but it is not for those who can't get past that particular curse word because it is liberally sprinkled throughout the entire book. (There! That is my disclaimer, but I truly hope you won't let the word put you off because the book is terrific.)
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k - A Counterintuitive Approach to Living the Good Life by Mark Manson is a brand new self-help book which doesn't really fit into the mold of traditional self-help books. The author's premise is that the pursuit of anything really just makes you focus on the lack or inadequacy of that thing in your life and because we don't understand that fundamental idea, we're not carefully choosing on what we expend our energy and emotions. The first chapter is called titled "Don't Try". (Not very rainbows and unicorns, is it?)
"The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience" - Mark Manson
He writes: "...Our crisis is no longer material; it's existential, it's spiritual. We have so much f**king stuff and so many opportunities that we don't even know what to give a f**k about anymore." [I warned you about his love of the f-word.]
He sites British philosopher Alan Watts "backwards law" -" the idea that the more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied you become, as pursuing something only reinforces the fact that you lack it in the first place" regardless of how much of that something you might already have. "... The more you desperately want to be happy and loved, the lonelier and more afraid you become, regardless of those who surround you. The more you want to be spiritually enlightened, the more self-centered and shallow you become trying to get there."
Anyway, all of the above is in the first chapter...the author also uses Buddha, Megadeath and Metallica, and the Beatles to make his points. He makes so much sense both about how we got here and how to get out of here...especially for those of us who are looking around and wondering what the heck is going on with people...his language might be crude, but his clarity is refreshing. Be brave and just substitute a word of your own choosing for "f**k" and read the book. Seriously, if you're the least bit interested and can get past the liberal use of the f-word, this a fabulous book and I highly recommend it. (Oh, and Superman says the guy who reads the audiobook version does a fabulous job, if that's your chosen medium.)
Oh, and if you do read the book and love it, or if you're not sure you can stomach his writing style, he writes a successful blog at Mark Manson.net where you can read more.