Think about it. If your place of employment made you feel unworthy, unwelcome, and unwanted, you wouldn't go back there day after day. You'd find another job and the knowledge that you were looking for a job would help you deal with the situation at hand. If the abuse really got out of hand, you'd call in law enforcement because your rights as a citizen would be being violated. Our children don't have those options and we're not holding bullies and their parents accountable for their actions. This leaves the children who do report bullying in even more precarious situations when they return to school to meet up with their tormentors. Bullying has to become socially unacceptable. Bullies are being "mean"...there is no pretty way to describe it. They are being cruel to those they perceive as somehow weaker than they are.
As bullying seems to get more and more creative and cruel, with heartbreaking consequences, I was pleased to see that a young music artist addressed it directly in her most recent release. Sometimes hearing someone "famous" talk about it helps the kids far more than hearing Mom and Dad saying the exact same thing. If the media can possibly be a positive influence, we need to use that. To that end, I'm sharing this with you.
If you're dealing with this issue at all, you might like this little song by Taylor Swift. My kids said they liked it because it wasn't too preachy and it felt honest. For more on this subject, you can also share "Love is Louder" with your kids. Isn't it interesting how the most creative, the most unique, are the ones that are bullied the most...gee, I wonder why?
3 comments:
I never really had to deal with bullies growing up, but I worry every day about my nieces and step children. It's a horrible thing and it is taken way to far. Do you think kids that bully, learn this behavior at home? I wonder....
I can't agree with you more! Bullying is appalling. My youngest would come home with his glasses broken...in kindergarten!! Boy, round and round with the school I went. Their suggestion...move MINE to another class...huh?
We're in a small town and just let me put this in an nutshell, they learned our name very well. We, of course, had to hire an advocate, but we were able to get some of the "rules" changed, but it was after our Dr removed our youngest from school. My 2 youngest ended up on Independant Study, one started in 6th Grade the other High School. Which was a joke, the packets were 2nd grade level. All mine have graduated and we are done with them.
Sorry didn't mean to turn this into a book, I just get carried away when it comes to this. You wouldn't believe some of the things the school did to my kids. So much for the greasy wheel getting more oil. Our school district backed the bullies, seemed they were always the kids of a prominent resident. If your kids didn't fit the mold so they could just push them through....I better stop before I fill in your whole blog!!
*hugs*deb
I will mostly keep my mouth shut about what I think of bullies. But I have two things to share. One - our media seems to promote this meanness - shows like Survivor for instance. Even some commercials. Subtle = but it is there.
Secondly, - I totally agree -
"the most creative and unique are the children who are bullied". It has always been amazing to me that the people who have the most to give mankind are the ones bullied, and the people who have the least to give - the ones i would refer to as wasted space - are the ones who are the bullies.
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